Getting to unity from isolation
The opposite of isolation is unity. It is the bond and loss of boundaries between a mother and her newborn. It is the sense of love and closeness experienced with family during the holidays or a special occasion. It is the timelessness and sense of oneness experienced by two people in love. It is the state of mind experienced by all enlightened humans throughout history. We have all felt examples of this type of unity in our life but unfortunately it erodes away with a growing ego. Love and unity is a natural spiritual state that exist between all things until we start down the path of isolation (see previous post on”Isolation“)
Unity is a conscious choice
If we choose to live a life of love and unity then we must allow our spiritual nature to guide our life. Choosing love and unity is a matter of personal choice and responsibility. We make this choice by not allowing the ego to dominate our thought processes or our life. Referring to the circular diagram in this post, we go from isolation to unity through a process of conscious intention. Starting at isolation and moving to unity occurs by removing the blockages to unity and love. They follow in a fairly logical sequence, though they may not always happen in an exact order. Let’s also clarify and define unity as a sense of love and oneness with everything. To reach full unity requires the highest levels of consciousness i.e. See post (“Understanding Consciousness Part 5 Consciousness Energy Levels”) The following steps will bring us back to unity:
Respectful – This is the most basic consideration given to other living creatures as an acknowledgement of their right to exist. It leads to being humble.
Humble – We give others the respect of having their own free will. We know we have an opinion but that opinion is only valid as it pertains to our-self. We do not try to dominate other people with our free will choices.
Authentic – Here we no longer try to impress others by flaunting our material goods or achievements. We have a certain integrity to represent ourselves as we are, not as we wish others to see us. We could also describe this level as caring more about our integrity instead of what other people think of us.
Cooperative – Putting aside the selfish desire to have things exactly our way we start working with other people to achieve a common good. In the process of becoming wholly responsible for our lives we realize nothing happens without the cooperation of others.
Grateful – Gratitude is an inner state of mind that develops as one moves through the previous steps. This is not isolated gratitude for a particular thing, this is a state of gratitude that exist because we are happy with our life and who we are. It is an acknowledgment of the interconnectedness of all things. It is the recognition that we do nothing on our own but rather everything comes to us through an intricate web of people and circumstances.
Friendly – As we become comfortable with who we are and we accept full responsibility for our life and we achieve more with others we become friendlier. Every relationship has the potential to fulfill a need for ourselves or for others. It is the synergy that occurs through relationships that inspires us to be friendly. Since we no longer want to impress others or have anything to prove we are no longer paranoid of other people, therefore everyone appears friendly.
Sympathetic – It is the ability to see the pain, struggle and hurt in others. As we become friendly, people start to share their authentic struggles and pain in life and we are able to listen in a genuine and authentic manner.
Kind – When we recognize that everyone is struggling with their own hardships we begin to offer kindness to others. Even if people do not reciprocate with kindness, we remain kind.
Generous – Generosity develops as we move through all the previous steps. We wish to share in whatever success we have. This is the beginning of allowing our heart more influence over our actions in life.
Forgiving – As we become more heart centered we feel the pain of hatred, anger, grudges and judgment in our heart. The only way to free ourselves of this pain is through absolute forgiveness. We will never reach unity if we cannot forgive.
Empathetic – Along with forgiveness for our own benefit, we also realize that everyone acts in accordance with their beliefs. We can actually empathize with a previous enemy by trying to understand and feel things from their perspective. Empathy is the ability to walk in another person’s shoes.
Benevolent – The willingness to give whatever you possess to help another. It is the selfless nature of giving regardless of how much you have.
Sacrifice – Similar to benevolence, the last remaining thing we can give is our-self. This is the willingness to give of our time or money in order to help others. It is the willingness to sacrifice our own needs, desires or pleasure in the service of others. Here we are entering the realm of the spiritual. This sacrifice is empowered by the recognition that this physical life is fleeting and our existence is eternal. With this knowledge the heart is imbued with a spiritual energy that allows one to draw others together in unity.
Loving – The progression of all the previous steps leads to an unselfish love that gives freely regardless of affiliation or reciprocation. This love flows from a source not of our own. The power of this love can heal, alleviate pain and can have a dramatic impact on the lives of others through a shift to heart consciousness. This love draws others together in unity.
Compassionate – Compassion is a culmination of all the previous behaviors. It is a spiritual understanding of our struggle. It is the understanding that our truest nature is wholeness and unity, but in our quest to be individuals pursuing our own selfish desires, we must suffer with isolation and loneliness. This round trip is the only way of experiencing, understanding and ultimately desiring unity once again. Compassion comes from a place of knowing, this knowing can only be understood through experience. It cannot be described or learned it can only be experienced through sincere desire. Once it is experienced, there is an understanding and acceptance of all things.
Peaceful – As a person lets go of all desire and control, there is nothing left but peace. (see post on “Understanding The Soul, Creator Laws – Part 3 Of 6”) Thoughts cease and the desire to exercise free will is all but relinquished. There is only one desire, the alignment of our will with the creator. The illusion of the physical world falls away as unity is experienced.
Achieving true unity is a spiritual goal very few reach in a lifetime. We are only left with the teachings of those who have attained it. There are also great examples of those who reached the higher levels of sacrifice, love and compassion such as Mother Teresa and Mahatma Ghandi. Working towards unity is a lifelong process that is so easily sidetracked by the ego.
The benefit of this diagram is to bring awareness to what causes isolation and what brings us to unity. On the isolation side we are trying to prevent the actions, attitudes and behaviors that lead to isolation. This amounts to subduing the ego or not allowing the ego to run on autopilot. Moving from unity to isolation is the result of unconscious behaviors and a lack of self-awareness.
Going from isolation to unity is more of an intention. It is the transformation of being ego oriented into the intentional realm of the spiritual. Moving from isolation to unity requires conscious effort, self-awareness and diligent intent. It requires the control of our thoughts and a fundamental change in our belief systems. As these changes take place our thoughts, which were normally judgmental, become empathetic, loving and peaceful.
Applying the idea:
- Observe your closest relationships can you see how they reflect the attributes of achieving unity.
- When those same relationships break down can you see how the steps towards isolation got you there?
- Can you see it is very easy to slide down to isolation, but climbing back to unity requires a heightened sense of self-awareness and effort?
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